Doest it still matter to be a virgin as a woman of God? Is it still a big deal to your future husband if you’re not a virgin anymore? If you’re not a virgin anymore, are you considered a sinner and should you be shameful about it?
Long long time ago, losing a virginity of a woman is like a disgrace, even Joseph (biological father of Jesus) thought of divorcing Mary because she’s conceiving without having a sexual contact with him.
Because Joseph her husband was faithful to the law, and yet did not want to expose her to public disgrace, he had in mind to divorce her quietly.-Matthew 1:19
A woman would really regret losing her virginity especially when she gave it to the wrong person, she might be shameful about herself, she will cry and hoping that she could undo her mistake. But that was already done and even if you’ll cross thru a wire and make some rituals so not to feel guilty, you can never bring back your virginity, not anymore!
For women who are still virgins, good for you! I encourage you to stay virgins until your honeymoon. You can be proud of it and your future husband can be also proud of you but never use this as an insult or never judge those women who made a mistake of giving up their virginity to the wrong guy because they just did it out of love, also some women were rape victims and it’s not their fault, they never hoped for that!
If you’re one of those who really regret and having the burden of guilt and shame, i’m telling you -you don’t have to! You must move on and you may consider these things;
- ASK FOR FORGIVENESS. God loves you, He will never keep a record of how many sins have you committed, He is willing to forgive you.
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.-1John 1:9
“Come now, let us settle the matter,” says the Lord. “Though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they are red as crimson, they shall be like wool. -Isaiah 1:18
- FORGIVE YOURSELF. Sometimes even if you already asked for God’s forgiveness, you can still feel the guilt and it’s like a nightmare. You must forgive yourself and move on, accept that you cannot undo your mistakes but you can still do right things to be a new and a better person.
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ,the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here! -1Corinthians 5:17
- WAIT FOR THE RIGHT MAN. There is no perfect man but there is a right one for you. This man will love and accept you for who you are and for who ever you are in your past. There will always be a right man who will never look at you flaws.
Yes, virginity is the best gift to your husband but ONLY at your honeymoon, and for me, the best gift you can give to your husband is love, care, loyalty, understanding and of course -kids to complete your family.
His Precious Daughter 
Love that.
And I love how all-encompassing this post is. You rally for (sexual) purity, but you remind us all not to condemn those who have made mistakes or those who have been victims.
I’d like to add, however, that this goes both ways: a man’s virginity is as special and appreciated as a woman’s on their wedding night. Far too often, men are congratulated for losing their virginity as early as possible and women are shamed for the same. But it shouldn’t be that way.
Parents should “protect” their sons from sex outside marriage as much as they “protect” their daughters from that. Don’t get me wrong, people do what they want when they want to, but there shouldn’t be any double standards. Imagine: you don’t allow your daughter to spend too much time alone with that boy she just met, but you allow your son to spend as much time alone as he wants with the girl he just met… I simply cannot fathom why society thinks this is okay.
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Hi Camille, thank you for sharing your thoughts. You are correct, when it comes to sexual purity, it’s not all about girls but also about boys. Girls should be taught by their parents to protect theirselves and boys should be taught to respect a girl.
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